I am going through a lot of changes in my life and am wondering when I might have a some time off from all the challenges. These changes have been a mix of good things and not so good things. And, frankly, Dear Universe, I’m plum tuckered out.
In the past few years I have gotten a divorce after a long marriage, created a website, started a blog, joined a walking club, participated in 5K and 8K’s, was inspired by many other wonderful women walkers, welcomed my daughter home from Iraq, welcomed my son and son-in-law home from Afghanistan, suffered with my mother as she fights lung cancer, fixed a broken furnace and water heater, met an incredible and wonderful man, broke a rib, totaled my car, got engaged to said wonderful and incredible man, dealt with a flooded basement, broke my ankle, had surgery on my ankle, got a blood clot from surgery on my ankle, got put on blood thinners, had a reaction to said blood thinners, side swiped a car backing out of a parking lot blind spot, backed my car into a storage unit and badly damaged my car luckily the storage unit lived, bought 11.5 acres of beautiful and secluded property, put my house up for sale, planning a new house, got a new team at work, celebrated with my daughter and her husband as they are having a baby who will be my first grandchild, got three articles published in the Huffington Post and at 56 years old I’m planning my wedding and a honeymoon to Italy. I’m feeling overwhelmed, vulnerable, exposed and panicky!
I know some people say they welcome change and to bring it on, but I think they are either delusional or straight up crazy. Can I get a pass on the next group of changes?
Terribly Tired Teri
Dear Terribly Tired Teri,
You have had had quite the few years. And, I can tell you are overwhelmed and feeling vulnerable.
But these challenges and blessings are given to you for a reason. They have brought you many gifts and lessons. They are sent to help you grow, become a better person, accept yourself and stop being so stubborn. I will keep sending you these changes until you learn how to welcome them and learn what I need you to learn for going to the next planned step.
You have found love where you thought it never to be found again, and you never, ever gave up, on anything, at all, ever, even when I wanted you to give up, relax, go slow and steady.
So, here’s my advice to you. Listen to it! Share it with others as some need to hear this advice too and these are my wishes for you and for them.
So here goes......
Listen, Listen, Listen. It’s ok to sit in a silent space. Sometimes you fill the spaces with too much talking and then can’t hear what the silence is trying to tell you.
See the blessings in everything.
Celebrate your family.
Rejoice you have love in your life, not many people get a chance to fall in love so wonderfully and completely, don’t question it, don’t sabotage it –be thankful for it.
Dance fast and Sing loudly, even if it’s by yourself.
Accept your imperfections – there is perfection in all those imperfections.
Be in the present moment.
Drive more carefully and use your car camera when backing up.
Believe and Trust.
Listen when I say, SLOW DOWN.
Let go of being stubborn – it’s ok to be placed in the care of someone else.
Let go of all those worries – they are dragging you down like a boat anchor.
Realize how absolutely unbelievably beautiful you are. Just as you are.
Accept how loved you are. There are many people in your life who would be devastated
without you. You touch their lives every day with love, laughter and light.
Let people help you. Stop denying you need it.
Stay in touch with your chicas, they need you and you need them.
Open your heart. Put your shoulders back, breathe deep and let the doors swing open. There’s nothing out there that will hurt that you can’t recover from. Opening your heart will only make the healing that much faster.
Understand you do make a difference. Every day. You may not see it, but you make a difference in all you do.
It’s OK to feel guilty – Guilt is a way of giving you a clue you should be doing something differently.
Take care of yourself.
Exercise but make it fun.
Feel gratitude. Gratitude is the door to joy. Open it, wide open!
Pray, meditate, be by yourself or sit quietly in the sun but give me the chance to communicate with you.
And, finally, know how much I adore, love, and support you. The gifts of love, gifts of pain, and gifts of laughter are there for a reason.
All is well, all is good.
You are loved.
Now, go forth and give up being so stubborn!
With much love,