Being the analytical person I am, I asked him if that was a marriage proposal and he said why yes it is. As my mouth hung open, he shared that he didn’t have a ring for me yet, but to close my eyes because he had something else. So, I closed my eyes and when he told me to open them, I saw something that made me burst out laughing.
He had made “his and her” matching ball and chains by taking two softballs, painting them black, screwing in black chains and adding a large zip tie for the ankle bracelets. He took white paint and painted “his” on one, “hers” on the other with matching hearts and arrows. I couldn’t stop laughing. What a wonderful man to go to so much trouble and use such creativity to propose. How could I resist this? He looked at me and said well, I don’t think I heard an answer and he was right, I had been shocked, awed and was laughing so hard, I hadn’t answered the proposal.
For those who have been reading my blogs, I might have mentioned match.com man once or twice. I am truly grateful for everything I have experienced while dating this man. He is attractive, funny, smart, honest, sometimes sarcastic and always caring. There have been times where we’ve been annoyed with each other, but those situations are far and few between and pass quickly once he realizes I’m right. We’ve never had a huge confrontation or purposely hurt the other’s feelings. The hard lessons learned from each of our divorces taught us to treat each other with honesty, respect, love and always with a sense of humor.
It has been quite a ride – everything leading up to my divorce, the divorce and learning to live on my own. And, before I could respond to his proposal, a million thoughts ran through my mind in a split second. Over time, I had grown to love the freedom being alone brought, I became comfortable with who I was and who I was becoming. I loved the opportunity to do what I wanted, go where I wanted, spend what I wanted, decorate the house the way I wanted and not answer to anyone. I forged a place to be totally just myself. I could breath again. I felt I could take risks I never have before. Who would have thought I’d start a walking club, have a website, a blog, articles posted in the Huffington Post and buy property by a lake? Would all this change with a marriage? Would I again lose who I was? Would I change? Would he change?
As I reined in my thoughts, I realized just as quickly I knew Match.com man would be with me in every adventure, support the freedom to do what I wanted, cheering me on, at times holding my hand, other times pushing me to go even further with my dreams, sometimes laughing at me, but always laughing with me. I knew then what my answer would be.
So, I gave him a big kiss, looked him in the eyes and answered I would be honored to accept his proposal to get hitched. I’m grateful and excited and can’t wait to have a redneck/duck dynasty wedding ~ we are happy, happy, happy.
My proposal wishes for you
You feel gratitude for everything that surrounds you. Gratitude is the root from which all joy grows.
You see how incredible you are with all your fears, vulnerabilities and strengths.
You realize all the things you’re afraid of are much bigger in your mind than reality. Take a deep breath and jump. You CAN take that leap and trust the parachute will open and gently guide you to a safe landing!
You remember to treat and believe in yourself as if you were royalty. I remember a line from a movie “All girls are princesses” and I strongly believe that. Treat yourself like a princess.
If you’re feeling stressed, exhausted, overwhelmed, underappreciated and generally unhappy. Remember, things don’t have to be perfect. You are wonderfully imperfect just as you are.
You laugh in summer moonlight, just once, this summer. Laugh by yourself or with someone special. It will make you feel light, hopeful, joyful and filled with gratitude.
You believe in love.
You know I send you good juju everyday! It surrounds, holds and hugs you like angel’s wings.
With infinite love and gratitude