On New Year’s Eve day, I woke up and next to me was Match.com man’s golden retriever, his fat rat terrier who had wiggled his way under the covers and one of the four cats. Match.com man had already left for work at the ungodly hour of 5:00 a.m. and I had fallen back asleep. When I woke later that morning, I thought to myself, wow, how life changes.
I remembered last year at this time my divorce was just weeks away and I was stressing about starting a new life as a single woman in her 50s and mourning all the changes. Now, a year later, I was in an awesome, exciting relationship and amazed at all the incredible new chapters in my life.
I thought about how much there is in life to be thankful for. My son and son-in-law returned home safely from Afghanistan; my daughter is back at school and thriving. My mother, who is battling lung cancer with bravery, is still with us. Match.com man and I are doing wonderful. I’m in good health and all’s well with my family. I thought about how the Chick Chain Walking Club website was mentioned in a Huffington post article courtesy of the awesome writer and attorney, Alison Patton. Her graciousness opened up a whole new world for the website and walkers everywhere. For that I’m eternally grateful.
I also thought about the tragedies in the world today and again how quickly life changes. My heart feels like it stops beating when I think about the needless and unexplainable deaths of Newtown and all the other places in the world where lives end so violently. There’s no explanation or reasoning that can be done about such horrific losses.
I also thought about the prayers I send to the universe when I hear about another solider being horribly wounded or losing his or her life in a war so many of us have forgotten is still being fought. It breaks my heart but yet I'm grateful for their courage in keeping me safe.
Out of my reflections of 2012 and all my experiences and life changes, I made some resolutions. Of course, losing weight is one resolution, but I thought, what the hell, let’s go big or go home. I want this year to be about being the best I can be AND helping others be the best they can be.
Recently, an author’s words inspired me to accept how life changes and create bigger, more daring life resolutions. The book is by Brene Brown, “Daring Greatly”. This is an incredible book about taking chances, even as we live our ordinary lives. She bares her life and research in a funny, thoughtful, and brilliant way. Another thing that triggered my thinking was a sign in a grocery store (of course, I bought it) and it says “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone!”. It so encapsulates the book and how I want to live my life – with daring, stepping outside my comfort zone.
As I think about my resolutions, I also think of the resentment, anger and fear I see in myself and I see in others. Life is too short for all of that. Is it worth all the effort we put into making others wrong so we can be right, acting like a princess, feeling entitled to an easier life, or just carrying the trash and list of all wrongs done to us? I can only speak for myself, but it is a heavy load which needs to be laid down and forgotten. All the fights and disagreements you’re having with your brothers, sisters, parents, friends, ex-husband, ex-wife, whatever the case may be, it’s just not worth it. It’s making us live small and holding us back from being daring and brave enough to move beyond our comfortable zone.
My life changes and New Year resolutions challenge to you is to live and dare greatly – go beyond your comfort zone. Accept that life changes! What do you want your tombstone to read? “She was a bitter, angry, unforgiving person, cloaked in unhappiness and may she rest in peace at last”. Or do you want it to read “She dared greatly, loved deeply, hugged with infinite love and gratitude, and laughed joyously in everything she did”? I like the second one better, how about you?
Here are my 2013 resolutions – live and dare greatly this year
Every day, recognize a person’s greatness and tell them about it.
Dare greatly beyond my comfort zone.
Let love continue to grow.
Never give up.
Make my gratitude list even longer every day.
Get a bigger vision board and add more dreams to it.
Let go of the fear of looking stupid.
Let go of the bitterness which sometimes haunts me.
Let go and let life’s current carry me where I need to go.
My 2013 Wishes for you
Listen. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give someone.
See the greatness living in you. And, yes, you do to have it!
Forgive one person every month. Truly forgive them, even if it takes forgiving them every day.
Apologize to one person you’ve hurt. Tell them what they can count on you for from now on.
Let someone be right.
Hug. Truly hug – an infinite love and gratitude hug. It is so healing for both the giver and receiver.
PS..As an ending note, I can’t thank all of you enough for all the love, support, kindness, fun and room to grow you all have gifted me this past year. I hope 2013 brings so much of the same for you!
Own it, love it and stand tall!
With infinite love and gratitude,