We met at a small town bar in the middle of the afternoon and we both expected to have a drink for a “meet and greet” and then leave. We were still there at the same bar in the same seats at midnight. My daughter was texting asking me where the heck I was and his daughter was texting him the same question. Talk about role reversals! We both had a lot of fun and just clicked (beer and wine helped move the process along) and we had totally lost track of the time.
One of the things he mentioned after meeting me was he thought I was more attractive in person than in my Match.com pictures. In the past, I have been told much of my attraction was my sparkling personality (I added sparkling). I am a talker, I love to laugh with people and having fun everyday is one of my main goals in life.
I found my match.com guy good looking on that first date and as I’m getting to know him on the inside, he’s become even more attractive to me. He has a great sense of humor, incredible steadiness, and a love and respect for his daughters and family that I find very appealing. And, intellectually, I have to pedal really fast to keep up with him.
Of course, our first date conversation got me thinking about how we view others. Do we stop to see who they really are or do we just view their surface looks and pass them by? Do we see someone who is flawed or someone who has great possibilities? Have you ever met someone you found unbelievably handsome or beautiful and expected them to be the same on the inside? But, found later they were unpleasant and negative to be around? Have you ever met someone you didn’t respond well to initially, but, as you got to know them found they were actually astonishing people? And, have you met someone you may not have considered physically striking, but their personality, zest for life, values, sense of humor and love for others made them one of the most appealing and attractive people you knew.
The Wicked Witch in the Snow White fairy tale was beautiful, her reflection in the mirror, mirror on the wall, was the fairest of them all. But her heart was heavy with envy and hate for Snow White’s beauty. To me, the fairy tale story would be much better if Snow White was not physically beautiful – imagine her overweight with cankles, moles, and a perpetual bad hair day - her real beauty found in her soul with the magic mirror reflecting that gorgeous, bright internal beauty. And, that beauty would be what the Wicked Witch really envied!
Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a mirror truly reflecting who we are on the inside? As we looked in the mirror every day, it would shine with a love of life, caring for others, our goals, love for families and friends. Or, maybe it would reflect darkness, struggles, envy, pride, and hate? With each reflection of our internal truth, could we adjust our lives and who we believe we are? Here’s a quote from the movie, Juno, (I just watched the movie for the first time). Juno’s father is talking to Juno about love and he says ““Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person is still going to think the sun shines out your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with.” This quote, to me says everything. It’s not about how beautiful or handsome, how much money or how well a person dresses, it is about having someone in your life who thinks the sun shines out of your ass. Would the magic mirror reflect that bright sun shine?
My magic mirror wishes for you:
You look in the mirror everyday and see how wonderfully beautiful you are. You have someone in your life who thinks the sun shines out of your ass. You look deeper at each person in your life and see who they really are. You see your individual beauty both outside and in. You see how gorgeous your eyes are; how beautiful your body is and your wonderful healthy glow. You look in the magic mirror and see someone absolutely drop dead gorgeous. You laugh, love, and dance everyday in front of the mirror because doing that will make you shimmer and amaze. Then, as people look at you, they’ll see your joyous bright light and beauty reflected from within.
My Infinite love and gratitude for you all,
Here are a couple links I’d like to share. The first is from Alison Patton. Alison was kind enough to mention our Chick Chain website in her HuffingtonPost.com article. She is a wonderful person and I’m grateful for her support. She rocks!
The second is a link to HILARIOUS blog. It was so funny that I sent it to friends who later told me they laughed so hard they cried. We still use the UPS guy’s phrase at work all the time now. Some of the language in the blog is, well, bold so beware to those that may be offended! But since some is language I use everyday, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Thanks to my niece, Jill Green, for sending me a Friday afternoon pick me up!
Finally, thanks to Jaime Dibean who convinced me to keep the Wicked Witch!